“Stop wasting time. Understand what is the truth of your life and get about the business of living it. No matter what, live what is true for you. Just be Yourself.”- Oprah
Here we are again friends, 3 months on and it seems that every time I go away I come back with more to share. Since the last post I’ve graduated from Le Cordon Bleu (YAY!), turned 22, attended the yearly life changing Colour Conference and have somehow found myself back in Lagos, Nigeria which honestly is the last place I expected to be.
We know each other well enough now for me to tell you that I am a planner. An OCD, obsessive but not compulsive probably crazy 22 year old. The plan was as follows: graduate, get a job in London or New York or even Dubai, stay for a while, rise up to maybe chef de partie all whilst getting investors and getting ready to launch Eden, move back to Lagos, enable phase 2 of Eden and after going through the stages of recruiting and selecting a location start and launch Eden. So with this insight into my crazy you must understand that I do not do spontaneity, I don’t plan for it. So with school over and being in Nigeria on a job hunt, with the obstacle of visa constraints, you can understand the anxiety building up inside me. I am now entering a new phase of life where I can’t exactly plan all I can do is keep pushing, keep applying, keep doing anything within my power to keep my dream alive. I am currently more challenged that ever to practice all I have been preaching because this is my waiting period. What I have discovered is that most if not all of my friends are in this stage of life where we have so much in front of us but no ideal, easy route to get there. So I have been thinking and with a lot of time to reflect I’ve come up with a few lessons I hope will help anybody else in this same season:
- Fight against Laziness– I am not a lazy person but since I have been back honestly, I have squandered my free time. I am just about caught up on every tv show known to man but the truth is just because we are not where we want to be does not give us the luxury of checking out. I know 5 days is hardly a crisis but as we know the character of life, a lot can happen in 5 days. Even with nowhere to go and no obvious thing to do, don’t pig out on the couch because what you think is you taking a break can quickly turn into you accepting defeat and giving up. Thats how 5 days turn into 5 months. Keep yourself busy!
- Be Mindful– Habits are a life changing tool and even if you do not have OCD like me a daily practice will be important to determine how you enter into every day. For me the practice starts with my bible study, just 10-15 minutes in the morning, I’ve found that it changed how I view each day because I am challenged to go into it more conscious regardless of whatever the day brings. For you that might be exercise or practicing gratitude or just a few moments of silence before you get out of bed but choose to be present throughout the day and a boring day could turn into a lesson learnt, and little things to be grateful for.
- Quit being a Gold star junkie– There is no medal for early success or simply showing up. We live in a society where we are taught to chase accolades and what I found was that I was just looking for the next section of my life where I could pat myself on the back for. The truth is accolades end when we leave school, real life does not present us with set bench marks or grading systems. On my current job hunt when I do eventually get one there will be no ceremony held in my honour, the reality would be that I would have to get up early and go to work . Our jobs are to constantly thrive for the better, to reward our small milestones and reprimand our setbacks. The world does not care and when they start to it will be because of the hard work it took to get there and then the accolades would be earned rather than being based on a quest for selfish gratification.
- Each day is a triumph– This one is particularly difficult. Be a goal oriented person but judge yourself based on attaining that one goal in isolation to your ‘perceived’ timeline. Make small attainable goals and work to achieve them, when you can trust yourself with achieving small goals you will be more prepared to tackle the big ones. For me that is interning, getting myself adjusted to the way things work here in Lagos, building up my CV and gaining valuable business practice for when I do eventually launch Eden all at the same time as job hunting.
The mandate is always to stay the path. To never stop trying. To fight to stay encouraged even when everything is pointing at you not to be and I am confident that if we stay expectant ,we will look up one day and realize we are smack dab in the middle of our dreams thankful of the little goals that got us there. I hope this encourages you!
Here are a few pictures of what I have been up to:
Graduation day!! One of the best achievements of my life (so far)
My ride or dies..Metha, Farah and Mariya couldn’t have gotten through without them
With Chef Julie- such an inspiration as the only female teaching chefs in the whole school and she also was the Boss, head of pastry.
One of the cakes I made for our sisterhood event
With Pastor Bobbie Houston, one of the head pastors of Hillsong (my church), creator of colour conference and the author of The Sisterhood Book- a huge recommendation from me, its a life changing read.
My colour conference crew! Love them
When your client has the same name as you you go all out!
Nutella and salted caramel cupcakes for one of my faves Oyinkan on her birthday
Dummy cakes at work for display.
Right before I left London we escaped to the country for a relaxing, special weekend. My mum, my sister and my friend Abiola. We went to the farm and I got so many ideas for Eden.
My morning act of mindfulness: my tea, my bible, my notebook and my bible study
It’s not always desserts. I hosted a dinner for my friends in Lagos last night. My starter was a pea and mint puree, with lemon garlic prawns and rosemary toasted tortilla chips
My leg of lamb marinated with rosemary, mint and garlic then glazed with an orange marmalade and balsamic vinegar reduction. It was everything!
Dinner ended with my fav a salted caramel and chocolate ganache cake.
Till next time friends!
Lots of love,